If I Should have a Son…
I will teach him sympathy, character, and discipline.
To not only have sympathy, but empathy. To feel and understand what others around him are feeling and experiencing.
I will let him cry in my arms and create a comfortable setting to express his feelings.
That the term “be a man” should not used.
That the term “hitting like a girl” should not be derogatory.
I will allow him to speak freely without hesitant of criticism from his friends.
I will teach him how to stand up for himself, others and women.
To speak out when he witnesses bigotry and racism.
Strength. He is able to be kind and ruthless at the same time. Kind in the sense that if a friend has a problem, they would not hesitate to reach out. But ruthless in the sense that friends wouldn’t dare to cross him. He will know the fine line between being kind and being a pushover.
To not seek the least amount of effort in anything he does. Courtship, Education, Career etc.
I will teach him how to be an effective communicator. How expression triumphs knowledge, how to be articulate. [This includes being aware of his vernacular (sluts, bitches, and niggas)]
Modesty and humility. Confidence in the sense that he has the ability to achieve whatever he sets his mind to because he is not only a hard worker but also because he has the experience to back it up.
I will teach him how to take on challenges patiently and not let failures phase him.
I will teach him how to not let his anger get the best of his emotions, and not let his current emotions affect his future plans.